both of us took the other's name (granted we were lucky to not have long and/or complicated names). but it felt momentous to merge in marriage and signify this point in history with a name novel to our (soon to be growing) family.
Today they would call that branding. Back then it felt like we were claiming new territory.
You write so well. Your words seem to flow with a fun light-hearted whimsy that I really enjoyed.
I also really liked how you explored the idea of decision making and how many nuances and variables there are to every choice through your name changing conundrum.
Whatever decision you end up making, at least you will know you gave the decision an appropriate amount of consideration.
Personally, I didn’t change my name! I feel a lot of pride with my last name and when I did think about the possibility of changing it, I felt a sense of loss. Then it just made me question the point of the tradition etc etc which led me to just affirming my initial thoughts. Not sharing the same last name makes me no less married! And also, it’s a western thing. So many around the world are married with their maiden names. Funny story: my mom only changed her last name a few years after we moved to the states (prob when I was 10-11) b/c our school thought my parents were divorced and were confusing our paperwork. So to logistically fit into our system and perhaps save some time with paper misdemeanor is def a fair reason.
both of us took the other's name (granted we were lucky to not have long and/or complicated names). but it felt momentous to merge in marriage and signify this point in history with a name novel to our (soon to be growing) family.
Today they would call that branding. Back then it felt like we were claiming new territory.
This was a great read!
You write so well. Your words seem to flow with a fun light-hearted whimsy that I really enjoyed.
I also really liked how you explored the idea of decision making and how many nuances and variables there are to every choice through your name changing conundrum.
Whatever decision you end up making, at least you will know you gave the decision an appropriate amount of consideration.
Thank you for your kind words!!!!
Personally, I didn’t change my name! I feel a lot of pride with my last name and when I did think about the possibility of changing it, I felt a sense of loss. Then it just made me question the point of the tradition etc etc which led me to just affirming my initial thoughts. Not sharing the same last name makes me no less married! And also, it’s a western thing. So many around the world are married with their maiden names. Funny story: my mom only changed her last name a few years after we moved to the states (prob when I was 10-11) b/c our school thought my parents were divorced and were confusing our paperwork. So to logistically fit into our system and perhaps save some time with paper misdemeanor is def a fair reason.
Nicole Herron-Jones
(Spanish style!)
Add the Jones
Drop the Jones
Cap it off with Jones
I wish we could all be as lucky as Cheryl Jones-Jones.
Well said. Looking forward to see how this pans out.